Why Did You Leave Me? Healing Abandonment

Tuesday, July 31st, 2012: Why Did You Leave Me? Healing Abandonment

Why did you leave me is a question that comes up in a relationship with a significant other, with a parent or sibling and ultimately with God or the source of our existence. In this episode of Pandora’s Box, Kaleah delves into deep seated abandonment issues and why they can have such a deep and lasting impact on us.

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Drinking the Dragon: Stories of the Dark Night of Soul with Dr. Patricia Ariadne, MFT

Tuesday, July 24th, 4pm PST on Pandora’s Box with Kaleah

Dr. Patricia Ariadne interviewed “everyday” people who have undergone profound periods of depression and despair triggered by many of the crises common to human life: death of loved ones, divorce, illness, aging. However, some of the crises she is encountering in her practice have been created by recent economic conditions, such as loss of home or a job. Her contention is that this process is a essentially a spiritual process. If navigated correctly, it can bring about a reorientation, a recognition of what is really important in life. People can begin to re-prioritize what they give their time and attention to, as the things they thought they could depend on have failed them. Trying to escape this meeting of the self through drugs, alcohol, sex, frantic activity, overwork, etc., does not work, because the void they have been trying to fill is a God-shaped hole. Dr. Ariadne’s thesis is that through many of the difficulties we are currently facing, we are being forced to mature spiritually–this means learning more about ourselves, reconnecting to Spirit or Source, and giving back to our communities.

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Running from Pain

Tuesday, July 17th at 4pm PST: Running from Pain on Pandora’s Box with Kaleah

When you have experienced being devalued and discarded in your relationship it is easy to jump to the emotional conclusion that “it’s me! It’s my fault, I’m not good enough, I’m not enough” but what you might not realize is the person jumping ship is not bailing from you as much as he/she is bailing from his/her own pain.

When a relationship progresses if you don’t have the tools to deal with conflict and to communicate openly and honestly there can be no resolution for issues and those issues will continue to expand until they destroy the relationship. Those who are narcissistic or don’t have any relationship skills will tend to project their repressed pain onto those closest to them and then disassociate from that person in attempt to disassociate from the pain. We may be under the impression that the one doing the devaluing and discarding isn’t feeling a thing, but it might be more that this person is running from his/her feelings. You may end up feeling that you are carrying the “pain bag” and may even own the projections of the one running from pain.

In this episode of Pandora’s Box we will shed light on what it might look like if someone you love has cut you off and how this may have absolutely nothing to do with you. You may simply be mirroring the pain of the person who is disassociating and really running from himself/herself.

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Descending Deeper

In my own healing process one of the most difficult things I had to do was to turn around and face the dragon, or rather face the pain. When we continue to run it continues to chase after us until it finally catches up with us. This is what many of you who are reading this are dealing with.

I went through a very dark night of the soul last Winter and wrote the song “Descending Deeper” to capture my experience of going into the pain. I felt inspired to record this song, live, Sunday evening and ironically it seemed to fit well with this weeks topic “running from pain.” Descending Deeper is the opposite experience from “running.” We find ourselves in this place when there is no place left to run and the only thing we can do is go deeper into what we have been attempting to run from. You can listen to this song by clicking on the player below.

Descending Deeper
by Kaleah

Descending Deeper
Deeper into the Void
Descending Deeper
Deeper into the Abyss
Descending Deeper
Deeper into the Silence
I Surrender; I surrender all of this

In the foyers of my mind
I run away, run away, run
From all the pain left there inside
I run away, run away, run
I can’t hold on. I can’t let go
And I don’t know who I am
I can’t go back. I can’t go forward
And I can’t stand still

Descending Deeper
Deeper into the Void
Descending Deeper
Deeper into the Abyss
Descending Deeper
Deeper into the Silence
I Surrender; I surrender all of this

Like the Lion
Chasing after its prey
I can’t run fast enough
To get out of harm’s way
And if I fall upon the earth
And shed my blood
And I’m rebirthed
Maybe I’ll know who I am

Descending Deeper
Deeper into the Void
Descending Deeper
Deeper into the Abyss
Descending Deeper
Deeper into the Silence
I Surrender; I surrender all of this