Since I began my work in Narcissistic Abuse, Soul Retrieval has been an important part of my work with clients seeking healing and recovery. When one has been abused through narcissistic predatory behavior there is often a feeling of having been raped on a deep soul level, something I refer to as “soul rape.”
Technically our soul is not raped. But our life force energy that give us our soul vitality, is extracted through crazy making behavior, gaslighting, confusion, and being discarded like a piece of trash after investing so much of our energy into the relationship.
The “energy vampire” is the narcissistic, self-centered, careless individual whose main focus in life is to get his or her needs met through the exploitation of their nearest and dearest. This is not love but usery. One who has been on the receiving end of such exploitation is left feeling their very life essence has been drained; something very vital has been taken.
The next question is how do we get back what was taken? This is the question most people have when they come to me for help.
One of the processes I use to aid in recovery from narcissistic abuse is a combination of hypnotherapy and a Shamanic technique called “Soul Retrieval.” Hypnotherapy works on the level of the subconscious mind and Soul Retrieval works on an energy/spirit level. Together they can have a powerful impact. However, most people want to understand how this process works.
There are Universal Laws that are as certain as the Law of Gravity. Most people don’t fully understand these laws. They are talked about in Personal and Spiritual growth teachings such as the “Law of Attraction” or “The Law of Cause and Effect.”
There is a great Website that gives a quick explanation of the twelve Universal Laws:
Although most of these Universal Laws apply when dealing with narcissistic abuse I would like to address The Law of Transmutation of Energy.
The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy – All persons have within them the power to change the conditions of their lives. Higher vibrations consume and transform lower ones; thus, each of us can change the energies in our lives by understanding the Universal Laws and applying the principles in such a way as to effect change.
When your life-force energy has been consumed you have the power to take it back. You have the power to change your situation, but where you put your thoughts, feelings and focus has a lot to do with the outcome you create in your life. If you continue to play the role of the victim, you will continue feeling powerless and this is not the goal to recovery. The goal to recovery is to feel empowered and in charge of your own life.
We actually have the power to command the energies in our own life. We just need to understand how to do it and how it works. If your soul energy has been extracted, you have the power to command it back.
We call those who take our energy “Energy Vampires” because, like a vampire, the “taker” feeds on the lifeblood of those he/she takes from. The vampire is dependent on the blood of others to sustain it, just as the narcissist is dependent upon the energy of others to sustain it. The narcissist will most often suck us dry, discard us and move on to the next victim using our energy, vitality and often even our identity to pursue the next source. It can be incredibly disempowering to experience such a soul extraction and we need to know how to take our power and energy back.
Through the process of “Soul Retrieval” we work with the Universal Laws, including “the Law of Transmutation of Energy,” to command back into our body and energy field that which has been taken. We have the power to command the energy. Most of us just don’t know it yet, nor do we know how to do it.
What happens when you command back your energy? Does the narcissist feel it? Does he or she experience a loss of energy? Often that person is so unconscious and unaware that he or she doesn’t have a clue what is going on but suddenly you may come into his or her mind and that person may feel a need to reconnect on some level. This is why when people start to feel strong again and start to feel they are recovering some of their energy the narcissist shows back up for round two, or three or four.
We have to get wise and realize this has nothing to do with love. Our romantic side often needs to romanticize the return of the narcissist believing the narcissist really cares about us or is coming back because s/he finally realizes how much s/he loves us. The narcissist may even tell you he or she loves you but you have to remember this person is highly unconscious and doesn’t realize his or her own vampiric nature. All this person knows, in the moment, is there is a lack of energy and it has your name written all over it. That person may come back and sleep with you and leave again or attempt to get you back but then start the crazy making behavior once you accept him/her back in.
Part of the magic of soul retrieval is to develop your own awareness that you have to stop feeding the vampire your life-force energy. You’ve got to close the windows and the doors to your soul and make getting your life back, the utmost priority. You have to understand the hooks that are being used on you and your own weaknesses, such as a need to romanticize the narcissist or feel guilty for his or her sad condition.
When the narcissist doesn’t have adequate supply, he or she can appear very sad and vulnerable and you may want to help; but this is no different than realizing that the vampire is weakened when he doesn’t get blood and so you expose a vein to help him out, even when exposing that vein weakens you.
Most of us are compassionate beings and want to help. We feel sorry for the weakened state of others; but we often don’t realize the need for self-love and self-care. We need our life-blood for our own survival. Let’s stop being self-sacrificing martyrs and start being self-empowered.
Soul Retrieval is a process that helps you command back your energy and disconnect from the Vampire.
Hypnotherapy is a process that influences the subconscious mind and helps it to accept the new reality, which includes the concept of yourself as being strong and empowered, recharged with your own lifeforce and vitality, rather than seeing the self as weak and powerless. We feed our self-concept with the thoughts we think and the attitudes we have towards ourselves and others. Hypnotherapy is a quick way to change these thoughts, beliefs and feelings.
Combining both Hypnotherapy with Soul Retrieval can more rapidly help you to detach from the narcissist in your life, take back your power, take back your soul, and move forward in your life.
Some people are more resistant than others because the beliefs that are keeping them hooked into that relationship are pretty deeply engrained. It may take a little time to turn it around. I often recommend we work together, once a week for a good three months for the best long-term results.
The first audio of this series is now available and it is “The Soul Retrieval Shamanic Journey” that uses the Shamanic Drum beat to induce the trance like state of hypnosis, allowing the suggestions and exercises to go deep into the subconscious mind.
I invite those who are interested in using this program as a tool for their recovery to make a commitment to listen daily for a period of about thirty days. It takes thirty days to form a habit, and the way you think, believe and feel around the narcissist is habitual. You have been conditioned to think, believe and feel the way you do. Using a program like this on a daily basis not only gives you the immediate benefit of Soul Retrieval but the lasting conditioning of Hypnotherapy and the Reprogramming of negative habits that keep you hooked into the soul sucking dynamic of the narcissist, whether he or she is physically in your life or not.
When your thirty days are up, move to the next program and keep some kind of positive conditioning happening on a daily basis. If you find that you are really burned out on one program, alternate it with another. But keep some kind of positive conditioning happening on a daily basis.
One-on-one therapy is recommended if you are really feeling stuck and need to explore your own psyche and unconscious mind to find out what is keeping you there. We often hold so tightly to a certain belief system that we just won’t let go. It is helpful to work with someone who can see into your own blind spots and help you shed light on them and give you tools to move beyond those places you are stuck.
Therapy is often very necessary in a time like this and I keep my prices very reasonable because I realize that most people coming out of soul draining experiences are also financially drained.
You have to look at therapy as an investment in yourself. For as little as $1000.00 you can have weekly sessions with me for three months. This is less than a day in the hospital and you can put the sessions on your credit card or use the Paypal “buy now, pay later” payment program.
If you would like to see how people are already being helped by my services, you can read the testimonials.