So we are beginning a new year, and many of you have likely made some resolutions as to what you hope to do differently, to begin doing or stop doing.
It is a great time for people to “start a new!” It’s a great time to commit to breaking a habit that isn’t supporting the highest version of yourself, or to form new habits that do support who you know, deep down, you can be.
Personally I am a big fan of “fresh starts” but not so big on New Year’s Resolutions. This is because I feel that any time is a good time to have a fresh start. The New Year, of course, is as good a time as any. But people tend to make resolutions and then break them a few days or weeks in and go back to their old ways of being and doing.
A resolution is both an intention and a commitment. You are setting an intention, to make a change in your life and you are making a commitment to do something differently.
The most common resolutions people make, is to improve their health, lose weight, go to the gym, eat better, stop smoking or stop drinking. As a result, Gym memberships and weight loss programs tend to have very high enrollment on the first of January, only to have the enrollment drop off by the end of the month.
Why is it people don’t keep their resolutions? Well, because the same behaviors you had prior to the first of the year are the same behaviors you have now; unless, of course, your resolution is to tackle the underlying behaviors that are keeping you stuck in old, unhealthy patterns.
Just deciding to do something differently is usually not enough. We need to have a deeper understanding of why we are engaging in the unhealthy behavior in the first place. You can resolve to stop drinking but if you don’t resolve the underlying issues behind your drinking, will power won’t be enough.
It is my recommendation that if you want to make a change this year, you go deeper. Go straight to the root of the problem. If your problem is that you eat too much, smoke, drink too much, or have poor relationships, making the decision to stop the “bad behavior” will not be what is needed to make a lasting change in your life.
Making a decision is only the first step! Finding out what it is in your unconscious, that is causing you to “act out” through your unhealthy behavior is key to making a lasting change. So regardless of what your New Year’s Resolution is, self-exploration is the most powerful path you can take to achieve your goals.
Rather than signing up for that gym membership, you might think about signing up for coaching, counseling or hypnotherapy so that you can really get to work on the underlying issues preventing you from achieving your goal.
The most powerful New Years Resolution you can make is to resolve to know what is standing in your way of having what you say you want. Start here, and the rest will become much easier!