One of the most common questions victims of narcissistic abuse ask me is “how do I stop thinking about it?” There are a lot of reasons we get stuck in ruminating about the narcissist and what he or she has done. Often the behavior you have witnessed is atrocious, even unforgivable as you might see it. So we are not talking about the behavior here. We are talking about YOU. What can you do to stop this ruminating cycle of obsession and hyper-focus on the abuser and the abuse?
We don’t often think about how our stories keep us stuck, but this is exactly what happens. Everybody has a story. The story might go like this. “He was having an affair with another woman for the past three years we were together and every time I felt suspicious and ask him questions he told me I was crazy and got really upset with me. I ended up feeling I was the problem and believed I was just needy and insecure.” Continue reading How Our Stories Keep Us Stuck