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Past Life Regression

Quantum Healing Hypnosis

When I became a hypnotherapist back in 1988, many people asked me if I did past life regression and I always answered “no, I believe it is this life that is important and this is why we don’t remember our past lives, if we actually have them.

I did believe there was more to this life then meets the eye, and I did believe in an after life, but I really didn’t want to go there with my clients.  It felt too risky at the time.

However when I discovered Dolores Cannon and her amazing work with past life regression, that all changed for me.  I read several of her books, watched youtube video’s and was hooked.  This type of work had amazing power to heal, and I wanted to learn how to do this.

I enrolled in the Quantum Healing Hypnosis Training program and learned directly from Dolores herself.  Dolores crossed over back in 2014, but her work lives on and her courses are taught by her Daughter, who worked along side her for years.  Dolores still teaches her classes via video.  Even though she is no longer with us in the physical, she is continuing to teach and share this amazing work.

So what was it about Dolores’s work with past life regression that caught my attention?  I realized that our past lives really can have a profound effect on our current life.  It can cause us to create illness’s, fears, phobias, and disorders in this life.  It shed’s light on why we choose certain friends and romantic partners and the karmic agreements we have with the people in our lives.  We come to better understand our purpose and our journey.  We come to realize that there really is so much more to this life than meets the eye.

One part I really love about the Quantum Healing Hypnosis work is the contact with the subconscious / higher self.  Our higher self knows all, and when we contact our higher self with our list of questions, we get real answers.  It is not like a psychic reading where it may or may not be true.  The answers we get from our higher self are real and accurate.  In this work I have seen the higher self heal the body of everything from aches and pains to cancer and heart disease.

Our higher self does have the power to heal.  It has the power to heal us mentally, emotionally and physically.   We first need to understand the lesson and why we have created our circumstances in the first place.  Once we “get the lesson,” we no longer need the illness or dis-ease to get our attention.

Past life regression therapy is NOT done over the phone.  Quantum Healing Hypnosis Certification requires all sessions are done one-on-one and in person.  We never want to risk taking somebody into such a deep state; into another lifetime, and have the skype or phone connection interrupted.  Although most of my other hypnotherapy session’s can be done easily over the phone, the past life regression therapy must be done in my Cottonwood, Arizona office.  This is a great opportunity to come to Sedona (only twenty minutes away) and have a real healing retreat.

The past life regression therapy consists of three segments.  The interview, where I get to know you and learn about your life.  This is where I find out your intention for the session.  This segment can last an hour or more.

The second segment is the hypnosis session itself.  The session takes place lying down on a comfortable bed or cot, which has been proven more effective for this type of work than a recliner, massage table or sofa.

During this segment you are guided into a very deep state of relaxation and your  higher self takes you to the most significant lifetimes.  You may be taken to an earlier part of your current lifetime as well, if this is significant to what your goals or intentions are.  After we have explored a past life or two or three, I will contact your subconscious mind in effort to get your questions answered. You will come to your session with a list of questions for your subconscious mind.  You can ask about health issues, purpose, mission, relationships and anything else you would like to know.

The hypnotherapy segment will normally last no more than two hours.

The final segment is after awakening from your hypnotherapy session.  This is where we have the opportunity to talk about the session, what you remembered, what you discovered and anything you wish to talk about. This time is also an important grounding time, to get fully back in your body.  It can last an hour or more.  You will not leave the session until you are fully back in your body, grounded and able to drive.

The whole process can take three to four hours or more.  The fee is based on an entire session and not by the hour, so you will know upfront what you will be paying.

If you are interested in coming to the Sedona, Arizona area and booking a past life regression therapy session with me, please contact me.

A Video with Dolores Cannon

More information on Quantum Healing Hypnosis

A Past Life Regression with Quantum Healing Hypnosis Graduate Alba Weinman. (Alba has many amazing session’s available on Youtube.)

 

Over Coming Depression

When you are depressed, life loses its luster.  There is very little life force energy available to get through the day.  You may not sleep well, or you may sleep too much.  You may have a difficult time functioning at home and at work.

Depression is a repression, or suppression of one’s life force energy and the emotions that are not being properly dealt with.  We often tell ourselves we shouldn’t be feeling what we are feeling and deny, suppress or medicate our emotions.  This causes a suppression of your life force energy.

You may or may not know what you are depressed about.  Knowing what you are depressed about doesn’t necessarily help to heal the depression.

What really helps heal depression is to deal with the underlying emotions that you are likely avoiding, and perhaps, looking for the spiritual guidance trying to come through the darkness. Continue reading Over Coming Depression

Finding Balance in Body, Mind and Spirit

Self love is really about taking care of yourself on all levels, body, mind and spirit. If you put all your attention in one area and not consider the other important area’s of your life you will experience a lack of balance.

People often come to me out of a state of emotional pain and chaos. The emotional part of their life is needing a lot of attention. This often happens when we ignore our emotions for too long. We develop sophisticated methods of suppressing our emotions so we don’t feel pain or discomfort and when our usual methods of suppression don’t work anymore we begin to experience the pain and discomfort we have long been running from.

When we ignore our body, we also experience physical issues such as gaining too much weight, lack of energy and illness. Our bodies need care on a daily basis and yet so many people put more effort in maintaining their vehicles than their own bodies. When we suffer the ill effects of neglecting our body, we don’t feel good on all levels.

The mental aspect is the part of us that thinks, analyzes, evaluates, solves problems and makes decisions. It is also the part of us that gets stuck in negative thought or stinking thinking. We need to practice being “mindful” of our thoughts. Negative thinking can lead to negative feeling and deep emotional pain. When you think the thought “I am not good enough,” you will not “feel” good. So practice minding the mind, watch your thoughts and beliefs. There is truth to the saying “what you think about comes about.” We can choose where to put our mind, but it may involve practice and conditioning. Continue reading Finding Balance in Body, Mind and Spirit

Talking to Your Children about Mental Illness

mothertalkingtochildAs a counselor for victims of narcissistic and sociopathic abuse, I come across about every scenario imaginable and have witnessed, through my work, the worst evils in human behavior.

When dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, borderline personalities and even bi-polar disorder, there is a lot of abuse, pathological lying, blaming, projection of hatred, absolute crazy making behavior including “gaslighting,” and the spreading of vicious rumors about the other parent.

What happens when children are caught in the middle of marriages and relationships where there is a personality disordered or mentally ill parent? Most psychologist will tell us that we don’t talk to our children about “the other” parent in any type of negative way. We encourage our children to love and accept the “other parent” and keep our mouths shut about the abuse that is happening. Well, I have another belief about this.

Some studies will tell us one of the top causes of death among children over the age of ten is suicide. Why do you think this is? I believe it is because, in our emotionally repressed society, we repress and invalidate the emotional reality of our children. To invalidate your children’s feelings is to deny their reality. To deny their reality causes them to feel crazy inside. They not only feel “crazy,” but lonely, isolated, and left alone to suffer in a world where nobody understands them.

Children feel very deeply. They are sensitive. They psychically pick up what is going on in the family dynamic and if you tell them what they are perceiving is inaccurate they are being taught they can’t trust their own “inner knowing.” At an early age we teach our children to doubt themselves, which undermines their self-confidence and their ability to perceive the world accurately.

Of course we all want to protect our children but we must learn the difference between protecting our children from harm and denying their reality. Invalidating the reality of a child is not protection. It is abuse.

Divorce is common in today’s society. Those who suffer abuse at the hands of a spouse are encouraged to get out of the relationship and take their children with them, to give the children a chance to have a peaceful, loving and supportive home. Unfortunately, the court system doesn’t really recognize abuse; especially narcissistic, sociopathic, and borderline abuse. This is because most people with these kind of “Cluster B” personality disorders present as normal, successful, capable people. People who have these kind of personality disorders put a lot of effort into appearing “normal” and being liked and accepted by others. The abuse is hidden. It happens only behind closed doors and usually only the nearest and dearest witness it. The nearest and dearest usually includes the children.

The courts will most often award shared custody to both parents, forcing the children to be with the “disordered” parent half the time. In some cases, with a more sophisticated narcissist or sociopath, full custody is awarded to the disordered person.

Children are usually aware that something is not right with this parent and will go to the other parent seeking answers. If the parent can’t be fully honest with his or her child, there will be problems in the emotional development of that child. The child needs to know he or she can depend on at least one parent for honesty and stability.

Pathological lying is a trait of a personality disordered individual. He or she will not hesitate to say horrible things about the other parent in attempt to discredit that parent. The nature of personality disorders is self-centeredness and the lack of ability to care about anyone but the” Self,” even at the expense of one’s own children. A personality disordered individual will use the children as pawns in order to punish the other parent. He will break all the rules about not bringing a child into the middle of a nasty divorce or battle between parents. In cases of “Parental Alienation Syndrome” the spiteful parent will brainwash and turn the children against the other parent altogether. The court system is completely unaware of such dynamics.

In cases of personality disorders and mental illness, it is important that the healthy parent talks openly and honestly to the children about what is going on. The child already knows something is going on and is most likely hurt, confused and seeking answers. Where are those answers going to come from?

Although I agree we need to talk to our children out of a place of calmness, rather than hostility and anger towards the other parent, we do need to talk to our children about the mental illness of the other parent.

I’ve had clients whose children get very upset when told they must go for their visitation with the other parent. They scream, cry, throw a temper tantrum and refuse to go. They are already experiencing the abuse and neglect of the personality disordered parent. However, if the healthy parent acquiesces to the wishes of the child, he or she could be thrown in jail for violating a court order. Parents are forced, by law, to send their children to the home of an abusive parent when the children are too young to understand why. The children are being sent into a war zone half of their young and fragile lives. The children need as much emotional support as they can get and part of this emotional support involves tactful honesty.

In some cases, the disordered parent is kind and caring to the children but vindictive towards the other parent and fills the children’s head full of all sorts of lies and half-truths. This is highly confusing and disturbing to the child who wants to love both parents. If the other parent doesn’t set the record straight she risks losing the respect and love of her own children who are being brainwashed to believe she is to blame for every bad thing that happens in the family dynamic.

Truly I have seen it all and it breaks my heart. I’ve heard stories of young children tugging at their Mother’s leg saying “Mommy please don’t make me go” and stories of teenage children, brainwashed into believing the other parent committed some horrible crime against the family and completely turning on that parent, refusing to have anything to do with them. Often this happens when one parent remains silent and the disordered parent is cursing and blaming the other for tearing the family apart, being crazy, or mentally ill.

Personality disordered people are known for pathological lying and projection, which means they blame and accuse the other parent for doing exactly what it is they are doing. This is a very confusing dynamic. It is not at all uncommon that a pathological parent will accuse the other parent of being mentally ill, and in front of the children. This is a defense mechanism against his or her own mental illness. A disordered individual really needs to believe it is the other person creating the problems because he or she is incapable of taking any responsibility for his or her own actions and behavior.

How to talk to your children depends on the age and awareness level of the kids. Some very young children are extremely aware and others are not so aware. You will need to tune into the cues of your children and listen to their reality and help to guide them. If they asked a question concerning the behavior of the other parent or why you live apart or are divorcing, speak honestly but with tact and speak at the emotional level of your child so he or she can understand what you are saying. Encourage conversation and questions.

It is the nature of a child to love both parents and want the love, attention and approval of both parents. It is important to pay attention to the relationship your child is having with the other parent. If your child is “in love” with the disordered parent, it is important to support that love and acceptance of the other parent but also explain to the child that Mommy and Daddy see things differently. You might use props to demonstrate how when you look through this pair of glasses the world looks different. You might also show your child how life looks without any of the eye glasses and explain this as an “unaltered” view. You might explain that when people have a mental illness they are looking at life through a very different pair of glasses and pick a pair that really distorts their vision so they can get an idea of what you are talking about.

When my son was young I made the mistake of “following the rules” and did not mention to my son that his Father had bi-polar disorder. Since my ex-husband was on medication for bi-polar disorder I believed he would tell his son and I felt it was his place to do so, not mine. When my son came to me, at the age of sixteen, confused and hurt by his Dad’s behavior I asked “did you know your Dad has bi-polar Disorder?” My son got very upset and said “Really? Really? Why didn’t anyone ever tell me?” He was angry that he was left in the dark about such an important matter. It was then I realized I made a mistake by not talking to him about his Dad’s disorder earlier. This is why I now encourage parents to talk to their children about their parent’s mental illness or personality disorder. If we don’t, the children will often feel crazy and believe it is somehow their own fault.

People with personality disorders and bi-polar disorder don’t live in the same reality as the “average” individual. In all fairness we all live in a different reality but we can all usually agree that white is white and black is black. A personality disordered person will argue with you that white is black and you are colorblind and be very convincing. You may start to believe that you aren’t seeing things accurately and begin to doubt yourself. You may have to take that “white” piece of paper to a friend and ask “what color is this?” Your friend will likely say “white, are you colorblind?”

To live with a personality disordered individual is to live in a distorted reality and your children will also be living in this distorted reality. You need to get the help you need to align with your own truth, learn to trust yourself and teach your children to trust themselves as well. Narcissistic parents breed children who are either narcissistic themselves or have very low self-esteem, stemming from years of abuse.

As the healthy parent you are your children’s link to sanity and a healthy sense of self-worth. Having one good, kind and loving parent can counteract the effects of the abusive, undermining and mentally ill parent. Be the example of emotional health by learning how to demonstrate it to your children and validate their emotional reality.