The Most Powerful New Year’s Resolution You can Make

newyearsresolutionsSo we are beginning a new year, and many of you have likely made some resolutions as to what you hope to do differently, to begin doing or stop doing.

It is a great time for people to “start a new!”  It’s a great time to commit to breaking a habit that isn’t supporting the highest version of yourself, or to form new habits that do support who you know, deep down, you can be.

successPersonally I am a big fan of “fresh starts” but not so big on New Year’s Resolutions.  This is because I feel that any time is a good time to have a fresh start.  The New Year, of course, is as good a time as any.  But people tend to make resolutions and then break them a few days or weeks in and go back to their old ways of being and doing.

A resolution is both an intention and a commitment. You are setting an intention, to make a change in your life and you are making a commitment to do something differently.

The most common resolutions people make, is to improve their health, lose weight, go to the gym, eat better, stop smoking or stop drinking.  As a result, Gym memberships and weight loss programs tend to have very high enrollment on the first of January, only to have the enrollment drop off by the end of the month.

Why is it people don’t keep their resolutions?  Well, because the same behaviors you had prior to the first of the year are the same behaviors you have now; unless, of course, your resolution is to tackle the underlying behaviors that are keeping you stuck in old, unhealthy patterns.

Just deciding to do something differently is usually not enough.  We need to have a deeper understanding of why we are engaging in the unhealthy behavior in the first place.  You can resolve to stop drinking but if you don’t resolve the underlying issues behind your drinking, will power won’t be enough.

It is my recommendation that if you want to make a change this year, you go deeper.  Go straight to the root of the problem.  If your problem is that you eat too much,  smoke, drink too much, or have poor relationships, making the decision to stop the “bad behavior” will not be what is needed to make a lasting change in your life.

Making a decision is only the first step!  Finding out what it is in your unconscious, that is causing you to “act out” through your unhealthy behavior is key to making a lasting change.  So regardless of what your New Year’s Resolution is, self-exploration is the most powerful path you can take to achieve your goals.

Rather than signing up for that gym membership, you might think about signing up for coaching, counseling or hypnotherapy so that you can really get to work on the underlying issues preventing you from achieving your goal.

The most powerful New Years Resolution you can make is to resolve to know what is standing in your way of having what you say you want.  Start here, and the rest will become much easier!

Ending Self Punishment

In this episode of Pandora’s Box, Kaleah talks about the Self Punishment that happens when we feel we are being punished by a Narcissist, Borderline or other difficult personality.  How can you take your power back when being given the silent treatment or being treated badly.


Anchoring Love in a Time of Fear

14610936_1277621358970672_4565553264326758542_nThe energy on the planet, especially in the U.S. is very intense right now. That intensity has found its way into my life, even as I have done my best to stay positive and anchored in love. What has been the most difficult thing for me is feeling so judged by people when I express my views, which are positive, hopeful and anchored in the vibration of love. I ask those who lash out to take responsibility for their own emotions, and they lash out more.

Finally, I resolve to disconnect from those who are expressing such hostility. But often they chose to disconnect from me first because of their disappointment in me.

I am healing some pretty deep wounds; as are we all, and one of the most difficult things to experience is feeling judged and having people disappointed in me. It triggers my core shame. I don’t like the way I feel. I want people to like me! I want to be accepted. I want to be approved of. But this is being challenged right now. Continue reading Anchoring Love in a Time of Fear

Divide and Conquer

a-nation-dividedLast night Donald Trump won the 2016 Political Elections.

As an energetically sensitive being, I have never felt so much turmoil in our Country; not because Trump won, but because our nation is divided, nearly equally in half, and one half is at war with the other. People are projecting hatred, anger, judgement and fear. People are creating the future with these projections. People are talking Hitler and nuclear war. The fear is overwhelming!

636071360936144661-xxx-jillstein-4I stand down! I observe! I quietly voted for the Candidate on the ballot who most deeply spoke to my heart “Jill Stein!” People ask me if I wasn’t afraid that I was dividing the vote. I said “No! I am not afraid of dividing the vote because if there is not a candidate worthy of my vote, I will not vote!” Jill Stein was worthy of my vote! Thank you Jill, for giving me this option. Because when I looked into your eyes, I saw love! I saw somebody who was kind and gentle and who truly cared. I believed in you almost immediately. You spoke to my heart! And I voted with my heart! Continue reading Divide and Conquer