All posts by Kaleah LaRoche

Kaleah LaRoche is the Founder of Path Back to Self and it is her mission to support others in their journey to self empowerment. She has authored four books on the topic of narcissistic abuse, recovery, and traversing the dark night of the soul. A Clinical Hypnotherapist and Holistic Counselor since 1988, Kaleah brings her compassionate counseling skill and Hypnotherapy to assist in healing and recovery. Kaleah also has a popular Website on narcissistic abuse at www.narcissismfree.com and a popular podcast "Pandora's Box." You can go to pandoras-box-radio.com to listen.

The Dark Side of Your Emotional Needs: Attention

Part one: How you can be manipulated through your need for attention

by Mark Tyrrell / Uncommon Knowledge

I heard a story once.

Long before mobile phones were a thing, a group of people were driving through a desert in punishing heat. As terrible luck would have it, their vehicle broke down, right there in the baking wilderness.

They were stranded for days and, drop by drop, their water supplies ran out.

Slowly, they began to die of dehydration.

One man eventually become so deliriously thirsty that he succumbed. He drank engine fuel from their vehicle. He drank so much that he died.

Not half an hour later the others, weak and dehydrated beyond belief, were rescued and given fresh water.

The man who drank engine fuel had a need. A real, undeniable need. He felt he was meeting it somehow, but the effects were deadly.

True or not, this tale is a perfect analogy for how emotional needs can make us just as vulnerable and drive us to just-as-crazy actions. And that’s what this series is all about.

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Instead of Anti Depressants for Anxiety, Take This!

Out of desperation to relieve anxiety, many people go running to their doctors to get a prescription for anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medication.  Although these medications can be helpful for short term relief, there are many side effects and can worsen the problem in the long-run.

When clients ask me what I think about going on meds for anxiety, PTSD symptoms and sleep issues, I usually advise against it, unless absolutely necessary.  I suggest natural supplements to begin with, along with breathing exercises and counseling to deal with the underlying issues.

There are many natural supplements that can be helpful to calm the nervous system and help to get to sleep at night.  L-theanine, the amino acid found in green tea, has been found to have a very calming effect on the body and it doesn’t produce sleepiness.   You can take it throughout the day, to remain more relaxed and because of the relaxation effect, it may help you to sleep better at night.

Here is a great article on How L-Theanine Works in the Brain to Block Anxiety and Stress

 

Giving Thanks for What is Good

When we have “bad things” going on in our lives, the last thing that occurs to us is to look for the good.  Typically, the pain, the loss, the trauma or whatever else is going on becomes the center of our focus.

For many, the Holidays are tough times.  You may find yourself alone, separated from family, estranged from a loved one, and feeling there is nothing to celebrate.  Although I am not encouraging celebration, I am encouraging looking for what is still standing in your life, and focus your attention there.

After a hurricane or a fire, one must assess the damages and decide if their home or any of the possessions can be saved or if they need to start over, from the ground up.

Many of us find ourselves in “start over” mode and must let go of what has been destroyed in the fire, or wiped out by the hurricane.  The most difficult part is the letting go.  We must learn to “let go” of the life we were living prior to the “disaster.”  That life is no longer available to us.  This is natures way of telling us, it is time to rebuild. Continue reading Giving Thanks for What is Good

Rebounding to Better Health

Getting exercise is very important on so many levels.  It helps to keep the blood circulating, oxygenate the body, stay fit and trim and keeping your muscles strong.  However, if you are like me, you don’t always feel like exercising.

Many doctors will tell you the very best exercise you can do is take a walk.  Taking a walk is really the easiest form of exercise and yet has great benefit.  But when the weather is too hot, too cold, too snowy or rainy, you may not feel motivated to go outdoors and walk.

Since I am a Goldilocks exerciser, I like the weather to be “just right.”  I don’t like it too hot or too cold and I live in Arizona.  The answer to staying in shape for me is my rebounder. Continue reading Rebounding to Better Health